There’s been a distinct paradigm shift. After months upon months of stifling, my intuition has once again revealed herself and I, like a proper young lady, listen. Nuances are much easier to detect and I take great joy in shoving myself out in the world and testing my strength. It’s a metaphor. By embracing physically demanding tasks and stepping outside of my comfort zone, I’m finally discovering what I’m truly capable of.
No more boxes.
Years upon years of classic conditioning and self-doubt don’t just go away. After suffering the experience of losing myself and the subsequent realization that I wasn’t happy, that where I was and who I became no longer served me, well… I was all too eager to toss myself into the fire, to rebuild and start again.
However, I must digress and say that there is no quick lesson in fixing oneself. And quite honestly, one has to go through the process of falling apart in order to further grow and develop. It’s only when all our walls come down, when we can sit with sadness and really listen and learn to understand ourselves, that we can move forward.
That’s not to say that I’m fearless or don’t suffer anxiety over what the future holds. There are these slide-back moments when panic swells and uncertainty seems all too prevalent. Thoughts cross my mind that maybe I should slink back into a familiar comfort zone and hibernate until whatever strength I perceive I’ve gained, returns. At the same time, I finally realize I can live my life differently. I can make changes and grow. The possibilities are endless. I am perfectly capable of reinventing myself in astounding ways.
It’s a newfound self-awareness. I don’t have to experience life the way everyone else says I should. I’m the author of my story. I’m the main character.
There’s a huge learning curve and I fight for the right to live authentically each and every day. Mostly that means checking in with myself – what I desire, what it will take to go out and get it, and recognizing how it makes me feel. Some days I’m invincible and others, I have patiently wait for that feeling to come back.
The truth is that there will always be moments when we hit a metaphorical or physical wall. It’ll sting like a mother and it’ll have every possibility to break us. That voice saying we’re not going to succeed is just background noise. Let it pass, don’t attach. Weather the feeling and let it go. The only way we’ll grow into our fullest selves is if we keep moving forward.
It’s easier said than done (I know). I’m writing these words as message to myself as much as to those who may be reading this entry. Go. Don’t stop. Find people who encourage the positive change in you and feed off their energy. Be thankful for their support. And, if you aren’t lucky enough to have people present in your life right now, seek out others through forums and groups and just – get out of your comfort zone. Jump or you’ll be forever teetering on the edge wondering what might have been.
Cliches do have a ring of truth to them – remember that.
Now if you excuse me, I have to follow my own advice.